4 Steps Moms Should Take When Their Teens Start Dating

 

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No matter how old your child is, they will always be your baby.

But that doesn’t mean your baby won’t grow up.

When your child becomes old enough to start dating, things can get scary. It’s a big leap for all of you and you need to be thinking ahead.

So let’s prepare for these big changes by learning the four steps every mom should take when their teen starts dating.

Here we go!

 

4 Steps Moms Should Take When Their Teens Start Dating

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Set Ground Rules

 

One of the best things you can do before your child is ready to date is to set up some rules that they understand have to be followed at all times. 

This means that before dating even becomes a thing in your home, you have made it very clear to your child how you feel, and what’s expected, including what age they are allowed to start.

 

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 List out all of your rules including where they are allowed to go, if they have to go in a group, and when you would expect them home.

If you have these “rules” in place before dating begins, then your child won’t have false expectations, and everything is likely to go more smoothly. 

 

Discuss Physical Relationships

 

The topic of sex and physical relationships doesn’t have to be tough or awkward and it’s really important. 

There is no set age when a child will become interested in sex, and it is dangerous to assume they are too young.

Kids see things in movies, hear things from friends, and know more than you think, which is why it is important that you discuss sex with them at a fairly early age.

Statistics show that children who have had parents who openly discuss sex typically delay sexual interactions, use protection when they finally decide to have sex, and have fewer partners.  

So don’t be afraid to dive right in and tell them they can come to you and tell you ANYTHING at any time.

 

Do Your Research

 

You can find a lot out about your children’s potential date by doing some online research.

Search Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and other social media sites.

Ask around to other parents and acquaintances who have contact with the prospective child.

Reach out to his or her parents, and learn a little more about them as well as your child’s love interest. 

This will help ease your mind and you can discuss it further with your child.

 

Meet Their Date

 

No matter how much your teen protests, never let your child go running out the door without meeting their date first.

It is important for you to know who he or she is.

Plus, when your child has to bring their date inside to say hello, it sets the tone for the night.

Without words it allows you to say “I am here, watching, and expecting you to treat my child right.”

And in reality, if your teen can’t handle bringing their date inside, then they probably aren’t ready to go on a date in the first place. 

No mom is ever ready to have their baby grow up, but we all know we can’t stop it from happening. 

However, we can do everything in our power to keep them safe and prepare them for what’s to come. 

Most importantly let your child know that you are always there for them and they can talk to you at any time with stress or worry.

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4 Steps Moms Should Take When Their Teen Starts Dating

How to Support a Bullied Child

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No parent likes to think about the possibility of their child being bullied, but the reality is that it is extremely common, with an incredible 160,000 children a day avoiding school due to the fear of bullying and 33% of children reporting experiences of school bullying.

These are incredibly sad statistics.

These kids exist in a constant state of fear of physical, verbal and emotional abuse.

Not only that, but as well as bullying victims, the act always involves a perpetrator and usually witnesses, so it’s very probable that you will have to face the issue in some capacity at some point.

So let’s talk about how you can help your child.

 

How to Support a Bullied Child

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How Does Bullying Impact a Child?

 

Children that do manage to attend class often experience high levels of anxiety and depression.

Over a long period of time, this heightened level of stress can have lasting effects that can be detrimental to a child’s development and outlook on life.

If left to fester and continue, bullying can impact them for the remainder of their lives.

Chronic experiences of bullying can have a catastrophic impact on a child’s self-worth and ability to trust others.

They can also have great difficulties bonding with others and creating positive relationships and sadly are at a greater risk of substance abuse.

In light of these facts, it’s clear that as parents, caregivers, and educators we need to take a proactive approach to prevent bullying from ever occurring.

It’s not always straightforward to identify a bully, so it’s helpful to be knowledgeable of other less clear signs.

 

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How to Identify Bullying

 

The best thing you can do to help is to teach your own child how to identify bullying.

Explain to them how they can identify it when they witness it and not be scared to name it.

Educate them that when another individual invokes feelings of shame, guilt or makes them scared that they need to go away from that person and realize that the individual is a bully.

Encourage them to tell you if they ever feel like themselves or anyone else is being isolated from the group.

Explain to them that there is nothing wrong with them and that if they are ever being bullied; the bully is the one with the issues.

Typically, if a child is a bully, there is something adrift in that child’s life.

Frequently, this can be due to being a former victim of bullying themselves, or maybe they come from a dysfunctional household.

Often they are quite envious of their victims and are seeking validation from peers. Sometimes they may have issues dealing with their own feelings and therefore, their actions.

Character traits in children often have a huge part to play in behavior and development.

Emphasize to your child how much you love them and care for them. Highlight how much influence they have over their lives and how tough they are.

Encourage them to communicate with you by communicating with them.

 

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Zero Tolerance for Bullying

 

If you discover your child is being bullied, reassure them that you will handle it and then proceed.

Have a talk with your child’s teacher and if you can the bullies parents. Every adult that has a role to play should be made alert to the issue and you should all aim to cooperate in order to resolve the problem.

If the conversation doesn’t seem to resolve the issue and the bullying continues, you will need to go up the ranks and make an appointment to see the principal.

In the meantime, you can instruct your child with sensible ways to deal with the bullying.

Firstly, tell them to avoid the person as much as they can and not to antagonize the assailant in any way.

You will then have to be prepared to go to battle for them and don’t give up until the issue is fully resolved.

Letting the bully win will only lead to more suffering for your child and when they see you making a stand for them, they will find the courage to stand up for themselves too.

 

How to Overcome Bullying

 

It’s not possible to be with your child 24 hours a day, therefore, it’s essential you teach them how to overcome bullying and beat it, even when the bully is right in front of them.

A great approach is to make your child feel courageous and strong in the face of bullies and that can easily be achieved through a role-playing game.

If they know exactly how to deal with the situation before it occurs, they will be ready to deal with bullying when and wherever it happens.

 

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Provide a range of situations where bullying could occur, including the bus, walking home and so on, via the art of role-playing games.

As the parent, you act the role of bully and instruct your child how to react in a positive way.

This can really help them verbalize and communicate better when the times comes. If your child is a little passive and shy, then don’t worry, what’s essential is that they feel cared for and supported.

Instruct them to say confidently and clearly, “No, Stop it.”

Or perhaps “I am going to tell the teacher”, emphasize that this is never wrong if people feel scared.

Highlight that their opinion matters, bullying is always wrong and adults will always put a stop to it.

 

Everyone Involved can Help

 

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If you have ended up here and think your child may actually be the bully, that doesn’t mean you have failed as a parent.

In effect, since you have come to that conclusion means you can be a big player in fixing it. You have the influence to put a stop to it and fast before anyone else has to suffer.

Be aware that you need to lay down the rules for your child and the potential consequences for breaking them. This will be positive for them and the child they bully.

You can even make a huge change if your child isn’t the bully or the victim; you simply need to teach them how to recognize bullying.

Encourage them to make a stand against anyone who partakes in bullying and to always inform an adult.

In reality, children can make a huge difference, since they often hold more influence over their peers than any adult does.

If no one makes a change, who will? We need to be prepared to stand up for our children and any other child who may be a victim of bullying. Don’t just wait for someone to speak out, be prepared to speak out on your own accord.

 

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5 Reasons You Should Let Your Boy Cry

Raise a Smarter Child with these Proven Tips

 

With male teenage suicide rates on the rise, the old adage “big boys don’t cry” may need to be readdressed.

Traditionally boys are taught to be tough, not to cry, and shrug off their emotions.

However, recent studies are showing this may not be the healthiest strategy to teach boys how to handle emotion.

 

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While no one wants to raise what may be considered a “mama’s boy” or a “wimp”, boys need to be allowed to feel a range of emotions, and they need to be taught how to acknowledge and manage them in an appropriate way.

In light of this realization, there has been a huge push recently to teach our children, boys included, what has been coined as Emotional Intelligence.

Proven to be equally as important as academic intelligence when considering overall child development, Emotional Intelligence helps children identify and manage emotions.

This helps them understand themselves better, how to react and respond appropriately, as well as be able to understand the emotions of others.

 

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In turn, this prepares them to be better siblings, friends, and partners. Under those pretenses, here are 5 reasons why you should let boys cry.

  1. Prior to puberty, boys are more likely than girls to experience symptoms of depression. When they are told not to cry and stifle their urge to do so, the emotion behind that urge doesn’t simply disappear. Stifled sadness can quickly turn to anger in boys and young men and is often released in bursts of anger or defiance. They don’t understand the anger or where it stems from, and it builds until they find some way to let the anger out externally. This can lead to behavior issues at school, with peers, and at home.
  1. When boys are taught to express their emotions and stay connected to their feelings, they learn to manage their anger in healthier, more productive ways. Instead of acting out in anger, they can learn healthy alternatives to deal with their feelings, such as talking to a parent about it, taking it out on a workout, writing it out in a journal, or expressing it playing guitar, for example.
  1. Boys who don’t express their emotions grow into men who don’t know how to express themselves or be emotionally available. This can cause issues in marriages, in parenting, as well as in work relationships. If we teach young boys appropriate ways to deal with emotions and emotional situations, they will grow up better able to handle these circumstances as men. Marriages will be healthier, fathers will be better equipped to deal with tough issues with their children, and employees with be more productive and better team players.
  1. As boys are taught to “man up” and hide their emotions, the coping method they learn is to become stoic, shut down, and keep their feelings to themselves. Studies have shown that this directly correlates to men being less likely to seek mental health assistance when needed, leading to higher rates of clinical depression, anxiety, and similar issues that can accelerate and worsen when left unaddressed.
  1. Allowing your boy to cry, while telling him you understand how he feels and providing guidance on appropriate ways to handle that emotion, provides him a sense of belonging, of being understood, and of being loved for who he is. This builds self-esteem and strengthens the parent-child bond. This is not to be confused with coddling or over-protecting a child but should be considered as an excellent way to model and teach acceptable outlets for expressing emotion.

Boys feel all the same emotions girls do.

For some reason, our society has traditionally thought it was okay for girls to show these emotions while boys were expected to toughen up and hold it in.

This has lead to generations of men who don’t know how to connect emotionally in numerous aspects of their lives.

If we can allow our boys to cry while also teaching healthy ways to express and manage their emotions, we can raise a generation of men better prepared to handle stressful situations, be better partners, and live overall healthier, happier lives without sacrificing their masculinity.

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Bloody Red Velvet Cupcakes

Halloween is near, so the need for spooky treats has hit my family hard!

We are looking for an opportunity to mix up a bunch of ghoulish goodness to share with friends! If you too want to share something dramatically delicious this Halloween season, you are going to love this recipe for Bloody Cupcakes!

While the name might sound gruesome. You can dig in with a smile knowing they are actually a devilishly fun take on the always popular Red Velvet recipe!

 

Cupcake Recipe:

  • 2½ cups flour
  • 1 tbsp. cocoa powder
  • 1½ tsp. baking soda
  • ½ tsp. salt
  • ½ cup butter, softened, plus 4 tbsp.
  • ¼ cup softened shortening
  • 1 cup of sugar
  • 1 egg
  • 1 tsp. vanilla
  • 1 TBSP Red Velvet extract
  • 1 cup milk
  • 1 tbsp. Red gel food color

 

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Directions for Cupcakes:

 

  1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees.
  2. Line cupcake tins with paper liners.
  3. Sift flour, cocoa, baking soda, and salt altogether.
  4. Mix the dry ingredients with a wire whisk for 3 minutes
  5. In a separate bowl using an electric mixer, beat the butter, shortening, and sugar until it is light and creamy.
  6. Add the egg, vanilla, red velvet extract,  and red gel food coloring.
  7. Mix well.
  8. Add flour mix and milk, 1/2 portion of each at a time, mix until completely combined.
  9. Spoon the batter into the lined cupcake tins until 2/3’s filled.
  10. Bake at 350 degrees for 20-22 minutes or until an inserted toothpick comes out clean.
  11. Cool for 10 minutes
  12. Remove from cupcake tins to a wire rack until totally cooled.

 

Cream Cheese Frosting Ingredients:

 

  • 1 C. unsalted butter softened
  • 1 C. cream cheese softened
  • 2 tsp. vanilla
  • 2 C. powdered sugar
  • 5 tbsp. heavy whipping cream

 

Frosting Directions:

 

  1. Cream the butter and cream cheese until creamy.
  2. Mix on low.
  3. Slowly add powdered sugar until blended.
  4. Add vanilla and heavy whipping cream and beat until thoroughly combined.
  5. Scoop the frosting into a pastry bag with a large frosting tip.
  6. Frost the cupcakes and place the icing transfer into the center of the cupcake

 

Blood Icing Ingredients:

 

  • 1 egg white
  • 1/4 tsp cream of tartar
  • 3/4 C powder sugar
  • 1/4 tsp vanilla
  • 1 rubber bbq brush
  • red gel food coloring
  • 1 package of Wilton edible knife icing transfers

 

Blood Icing Directions

 

  1. In a standing mixer, combine the egg white, cream of tartar, vanilla and powder sugar.
  2. Mix until white in color and stiff peaks about 7 minutes
  3. Mix in red food coloring
  4. Add a few more drops of red to get a deep shade of red, about 5 drops.
  5. If the icing is thick add in 1 tsp of water
  6. Place the cupcakes into an area where you won’t mind getting ‘blood’ on items
  7. Dip the bbq brush into the blood and shake the brush towards the cupcakes to give them the blood effect.
  8. Let dry for 10 minutes before enjoying.

 

 

If you have any spook-tastic recipes for Halloween, I would love to hear about them in a comment!

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DIY Candy Corn Candle Holder

Candy Corn Candle Holder

Fall is such a wonderful season to enjoy. As we watch the leaves turn from green to orange and browns, the temperatures drop and everything around us is pumpkin and apples then you know it is one of the best seasons of all. I wanted to share this simple DIY that can bring fall into your home for under $10.  Your love of candy corn can make the perfect decor. You just need a few supplies to create a unique centerpiece. Simply take a small glass candle holder or container, fill it with candy corn and top it with a tea light. That’s it! It’s a perfect, yet simple centerpiece to a Fall dinner table.

Materials

  • Glass Jar
  • Bag of Candy Corn
  • Tea Light Candle
  • Ribbon (optional)

Instructions

  1. Pour the bag of candy corn into the glass jar, filling slightly to the top.
  2. Add your tea light candle.
  3. Display your beautiful decoration on your table or mantle.

This candle holder can be displayed in many different ways. Add a ribbon of your favorite season. Add crystal clear or blue marbles during the spring months. You can also add m&m’s or holiday colored candy corns for Christmas. The options are endless.

 

No More Dirty Dishes with the Bosch AutoAir™ 500 Series Dishwasher

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As the kids get older, some parts of life have gotten easier. The night time calls for mom are rare, the messes seem less severe and they can dress and groom themselves. But, the one area that hasn’t gotten any easier would be our dish situation.

Three growing boys can create a massive amount of dirty dishes in a matter of moments. Keeping up with their hunger and the aftermath has had me dreaming of a new dishwasher. My eye sparkles at the sight of the Bosch AutoAir™ Bosch 500 Series dishwasher when I am shopping at Best Buy. 

No More Dirty Dishes

I love that the Bosch AutoAir™ automatically opens the door at the end of the drying cycle to let moisture escape and fresh air circulate for better drying results. *Compared to Bosch Dishwashers with PureDry. It has a quiet operation and a roomy interior which can hold up to 16 place settings. That is just the right size for a family who has always hungry kids, or that loves to entertain. 

Back to School with Bosch

While the kids are just getting back to school, the mom in me recognizes that cold and flu season lurks right around the corner. A big selling point in the Bosch 500 series Auto Air is that this dishwasher has a Sanitize Option that reduces 99.9% of bacteria with a hot-wash rinse for sparkling clean and sanitized dishes. How helpful is that in keeping your family healthy year-round?

If you are looking for a new dishwasher, the Bosch Auto Air is the one to look at; it has a flexible third rack and the capabilities to customize how the racks fit in the dishwasher for a one of a kind clean, every time.

Next time you are in Best Buy be sure to check out the appliance section with the new Bosch Auto Air dishwasher. It has made my life in the kitchen a lot less stressful.

**Compared to Bosch Dishwashers with PureDry.**

Disclosure: Southern Carolina Family has been compensated in the form of a Best Buy Gift Card and/or received the product/service at a reduced price or for free. All thoughts and opinions are my own.

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