Being a mother of 3 boys I can say that disciplining a child to manage their behavior is never easy. There are a lot of things that need to be considered. You can never be their role model if you keep telling them the things they need not do nor the things they need to remember. Surely, they’ll think of you as their wicked fairy-god mother. Remember that your child is a real human being, no matter how young your child is, or how frustrated you may be. If you want your child to respect your authority, then you have to respect the fact that your child is an imperfect human being.
If you want your children to be well-disciplined, then you have to be consistent about your several basic rules. You have to be clear in everything. It’s important to let your child know exactly what you consider good and bad behavior, and what the consequences will be for that bad behavior. If your rules are vague or discussed only when one has been broken, your child will have a hard time following them.
However, do not forget that your kids are not your subordinates nor your prisoners.They follow your rules because they respect you as their mother. And in return, learn to appreciate your child’s struggles, problems, and feelings, and considering why your child might be acting out. Or feel sorry for your child when your child is upset during bad behavior, and wanting to rescue your child from his problem.
No two children are the same, and it’s important to consider who your child really is when you dole out a certain punishment. As your child gets older, you should also update your discipline system to fit a more mature child; on the other hand, you should avoid giving young children the same discipline you would give to an older, more capable child.
Just like how I managed to raise and discipline my 3 boys. It was not easy but it was totally one hell of a roller coaster ride for us. I always make sure that my attention is equally divided among them. Effective discipline is about providing the right guidance and letting your kids live the kind of life they deserve.
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