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It doesn’t take too much to understand why children love their smartphones and why they want to have them as soon as they learn to talk (more or less). Smartphones can be fun. I know this may sound frivolous or even careless, but if we had smartphones when I was 10, I would have wanted one just as badly as 10 year-olds want them now.

When it comes to using smartphones as toys, it is, once again, not difficult to see why children enjoy playing video games. Video games have become so exciting and detailed that we as parents often find ourselves in a situation where trying to sell the game of hide-and-seek over the latest mobile video game feels like a lost cause.

But, what about traditional toys? (I include certain “modern” toys such as LEGO in the traditional category, by the way.) Do traditional toys stand a chance? Should we try and encourage our children to play with traditional toys over smartphones?

The Case for Traditional Toys

You can call me too traditional, unhip or anything else, but I really do believe that old-school toys still have a place in the modern world and for a number of reasons.

For one, traditional toys will often illicit a social aspect in order to be as great as they can. A girl can play with her toys alone, but her play will reach a whole other level if other girls (or boys, why not?) join in on the fun. A boy can have a ton of fun with his Legos on his own, but invite a buddy or two and it becomes something entirely else. And this is not even mentioning board games and other toys that are inherently social in nature.

Moreover, traditional toys often ask of a child to exercise his or her imagination. An inanimate doll will require a bit of imagination to come to life and start leading a life of its own. The same goes for the majority of other traditional toys.

In other cases, toys will help your child practice their social skills, learn about competition and even conflicts. These are all lessons that will serve them well later in life.

Once again, you can call me too traditional or unhip; but I have a feeling that smartphones do not do all of this to the same extent as traditional toys and games.

How to “Sell” Traditional Toys

The most obvious way to promote traditional toys in your family, and one that is often taken, is to outright prohibit the use of smartphones in early childhood and to put very strict limitations on the devices once your children reach an age when they “have to” get a smartphone.

I am all for imposing rules for the use of smartphones, especially in certain situations and at certain times, but I also do not believe that an outright ban will be the best solution. When things are banned, they get a special aura of the “forbidden fruit” and they become even more alluring.

The good thing is that traditional toys and games do not really need “selling”. They are fun and they are exciting. Also, once your children get a taste of what their own minds are capable of, it is a feeling that does not go away soon.

You might also want to look into child care centers where children are encouraged to play with traditional toys and engage in games that will involve other children, boosting their social skills and turning smartphones into nothing but communication devices (which they should have remained in the first place).

I am definitely in the “traditional” camp when it comes to toys and smartphones. That being said, I understand very well that my kids will feel left out and even ostracized without these infernal devices.

It is all about finding the right balance.

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About the author: Tracey Clayton is a full-time mom of three girls. She feels she knows a thing or two about raising happy, healthy and confident kids, and offers helpful advice in hers parenting articles. Her motto is: “Live the life you love, love the life you live.”

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